I think it's such a shame that chaps aren't allowed to treat ladies with such courtesy. As far as I'm concerned, I do all that which you describe, and don't recall any time when the gesture was unwelcome - except for some peculiar woman who would'nt let me lower the armrest on the train for some reason, and snapped my head off when I asked her nicely...
I do remember, however, a very early first 'date' in my formative years, when I suggested we 'went to the theatre', which was a bit crass at the time, as I'd just been reading 'Room at the top'...:0~
I blame the rubbish on the BBC...!
(But then you'd know that already, wouldn't you)!