... one every site who feels the need to give new people jip?
Sunshine, you handled it brilliantly. You explained yourself, offered to rectify things if you had overstepped the boundary.
Find out the facts for yourself and react accordingly, but just remember you are never going to please the bugrits anyway anyhow so you might as well just do what you want ...
My next door neighbour is an old goat who has tried to make my life miserable and even to get the other plotholders to ignore me. But he's finally given up because I just carry on. He says I don't belong there, and I don't fit. The other old boys he was trying to get on side all think I'm slightly barmy I know, but they like the fact that I'm different. They laugh at me, but it's all good natured. And when my greenhouse was stolen, and my pears pinched all of them rallied round.