Kitkat,
The way I see it is that we have different obligations towards the animals that surround us, and these differ depending on our relationships with them. I feel that the issue has more to do with us rather than the animal. So when it comes to eating the whole animal, or just its eggs, it’s our relationship with the animal that’s important. Opinions will therefore differ depending upon this relationship, which may explain the accusation levelled against you.
For example we have wild animals, semi-domesticated animals, and companion animals. Some animals do fall in between these groupings, for example a pheasant on a shooting estate isn’t truly wild but then it’s not really semi-domesticated either.
I consider that there are a couple of inversely proportional scales which operate in human-animal interactions. The first relates to our responsibilities to the species and the second to the individual animal.
With wild animals we have a lesser responsibility to the individual than to the species, by which I mean that whilst an individual act of cruelty is abhorrent and an individual death may be upsetting (for example when you see a fox run under the wheel of a car), it’s more important to maintain the correct environment/habitat in which the species can thrive.
At the other end of the scale with a companion animal it’s the individual that’s paramount, the species is less important. It’s still a consideration though, as, for example, I feel that it’s irresponsible of us to deliberately breed animals with debilitating defects for aesthetic reasons.
We would not normally eat a pet because of the way in which we have exalted its status to an honourary member of the household, although if a such a pet produced a by-product then you probably wouldn’t be adverse to using it either. I’m thinking here, say, of using the naturally shed feather of a pet parrot as a bookmark.
Your actions are quite logical as you treat your fowl more as pets, rather than as semi-domesticated animals. Other readers will have a different relationship with their chickens and consequently their behaviour towards them will be different.
A hypocrite does not practice what they preach, and this does not seem to apply in your case.
SS