A good friend of mine has a very long term partner who has dementia and has had to surrender his licence and cannot drive his car anymore (he is 80, she is nowhere near that age). He was diagnosed about 2 years ago, and about the same time bought a new car. He has in that time just moved it across their front parking area. Today she told me that he has now very recently driven it in the Village on a couple of occasions.
I was so shocked, and said, oh well if he gets caught, he will perhaps go into custodial care. Her reply was that he would only get told off, due to his circumstances. I did venture to say that she might not think that if she happened to be walking in the village (no pavements) perhaps with a dog or child and was run-over.
She can get a bit ....if she doesn't like the turn of conversation, and said well I am not going to lose sleep over it.
I feel anxious that gaining confidence, he might do it again, and maybe go further.
I feel that the car keys should be taken far away from him, but I know she finds him a very frightening, and will just keep the peace.
So there is nothing more I can do or say. Maybe somebody else in the village will see him and report it to the authorities. She is often out (to get away from him) and he will probably do it when she's not there.
I feel really churned up and anxious, and wish she hadn't told me (we were at a WI tea party !), because if I had seen him, I would have reported him. But I can only sit and worry.
Sorry to off load on you. regards Mrs Bouquet