Perhaps Harry is suffering with mental worries, perhaps she is, perhaps they both are. Perhaps they just don't feel they fit into the existing framework or want different things for their son. Perhaps they are money grubbing - who knows - not me
I would have been tempted to put some distance between myself, the British press and a potentially rocky meeting and join in by video link as well. Meghan is the outsider here, whereas Harry is talking to his dad, grandparents and brother. Imagine walking into a room full of that lot knowing you have irritated them. That would scare most people half to death.
I hope they and the family can work this out without too much blood letting. I think compromises will have to be made on both sides, but 'spare' royals do need a proper job to do and perhaps some modernisation of the family firm is overdue. I'm sure the boss will want the best for them, but will be very particular about ensuring it all as fair as possible