Yes,
Yes and thrice
Yes! Am totally fed up with having to frantically scan the menu, then sometimes ending up asking for an 'ordinary' coffee in a small, apologetic voice. (Bill Bryson wrote memorably about the same frustration in one of his earlier books.)
As for being asked 'Would you like a cake or muffin with that?', the answer is the coldest stare I can muster!
It would also be nice if a 'regular' (i.e. smallest) coffee was actually less than half a gallon (I can only drink so much of even a good mug of coffee.
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Thanks Mum, rant over (for now!)